Sex Therapy
Let’s figure out the “why” behind issues in the bedroom and re-pattern the moments that lead to disconnect so you may find connection instead, time and time again.
Common Issues
I commonly work with erectile dysfunction, low libido, libido discrepancy (one person’s libido is much higher or lower than the other), premature ejaculation, anorgasmia/inability to achieve orgasm, and vaginismus/pain with penetration.
Relational Issues
What we look at in therapy may include relational issues such as: power dynamics and equality, gender roles, emotional connection/disconnection, communication, reframing ideas around what sex “should” look like, attachment injuries, and barriers to asking for what you want/need.
Mind-Body Connection
What does YOUR brain/body needs for the “sex part” to turn on? For some people, it’s emotional connection— when I feel close to you emotionally, I want to mirror that physically— I feel warm and loved by you, and that opens my body up to want to be close to you. Or, it might be that the physical begets the emotional— I see you, I’m attracted to you, my body gets aroused, and now I want to be close to you physically in order to connect with you emotionally. For some, feeling equal and balanced in the household responsibilities is an important precursor to libido. Or maybe it’s feeling cared for, nurtured, respected, and appreciated.
Most of the time, having a safe and secure bond is a major piece of the foundation for a good sex life.
I work with people of all genders, religions/belief systems, sexual orientations, and lifestyles.
Psychological/Medical Issues
Psychological and medical issues can influence libido/pain/sex, including depression, anxiety, trauma, menopause, post-natal, autoimmune disorders, medication side effects, etc.
Couples or Individuals
I work with both couples and individuals on sex therapy issues. Both can be effective— but if you’re not sure which is right for you, let’s talk about what your needs might be!
